Divorce Recovery Counseling
Hurricane Katrina was devastating. The moment the storm hit and the levy broke, people were pushed into action in order to save their lives and the lives of those they loved. Unfortunately, as we saw in that tragedy, not everything, or everyone could be saved. For those who got out, there were likely some feelings of relief, hope, and joy. Some may have looked around to see the sun shining and the clouds rolling way. That is, until they observed the aftermath. The aftermath of Hurricane Katrina left debris everywhere. Even as time passed, some found unsuspected damage. Divorce is much like Katrina. It can feel like a whirlwind of arguments and decisions and breaking things apart and we deeply believe, "when it's over, I will finally feel free." We hope that once the storm is gone, we will find ourselves full of life and joy and hope. But then the relationship is over, and surprisingly, it still hurts.
No matter the reasons that led to the decision to divorce, people may find themselves experiencing feelings of shame, guilt, loss, and fear. There is fear related to an unknown future; grief related to lost dreams and hopes; shame and guilt as we sense that we have "let ourselves or others down"; loneliness and sadness as we try to find who we are without the person we had committed our life to. Though divorce may have been the right choice for you, it doesn't make it easy. Many find themselves walking under what appears to be "clearer" sky, only to trip over debris that they did not expect to surface as a part of the “divorce aftermath”.
I am passionate about helping individuals recover from the pain and loss of divorce. We all need to feel safe and unconditionally supported as we work through our own feelings of betrayal, hurt, and loss. I believe that I offer the needed safety and support, while also challenging my clients to move forward and rebuild their lives. Together we work to mourn what was lost while rebuilding a strong sense of personal identity, passion and vision for the future.
“For everything you have missed, you have gained something else;
And for everything you gain, you lose something else.
It is about your outlook towards life. You can either regret or rejoice.” ~Unknown